Adam
Before reading this I’ll give a warning that there will be some choice language. To describe what went on and to convey the feeling and type of person Adam has turned into I feel I should bring the text down to his level.
Sunday, October 24th 2021
I called Adam in the late afternoon, early evening as there was obviously something wrong. The best I can describe his attitude was like a crazed, slobbering psychopath.
The call didn’t get off to a good start. His first words were ‘I’m gonna punch your puss, you’re a fucking wanker’.
I was at a loss, I hadn’t a clue why he was so violently angry.
Before going on it’s worth noting that Adam likes to show bravado over the phone and in front of the ladies in his life. In reality though, he’s a wimp.
He then went on, having a rant about money, a rant where he was very obviously using someone else’s words.
He told me I was owe him £10,000. Really?
Now before I explain, you would think that Adam, as a gambling addict, would have a better understanding of money.
He then went on ‘How can you take money from your son for living with you?’. That wasn’t him talking, he was repeating what someone had said to him. Believe me, I know Adam.
Now, Adam came to me in 2005 when I was in the process of moving into a new house. He wanted to come and stay with me as, in his own words, ‘I hate mum’. He also told me he couldn’t abide her partner.
His mum was charging him £60 per week to stay with her. That’s right she was charging her student son £60 per week. (I wrote a letter to Adam in 2023 and noted that conversation in the letter. When I spoke to Adam after he had read the letter he told me that he agreed with the majority of what I’d written and when talking about his mum charging him £60 per week, he commented ‘and the rest’. But let’s stick with £60 for now.
There was a delay in me moving house and he was agitated that it was taking so long. He also informed me that he and his sisters suspected Sandra of moving in with her partner for money. She is a bit of a gold digger by the way.
Anyway, he was desperate and in October 2005 we both moved in to my newly acquired house together.
Adam now had free board.
In 2006 I left my position with the franchise and decided to start up my own studio. This I did in December 2007.
Unfortunately the recession struck in 2008 and the new business was a struggle. I started to have financial problems, eventually struggling with my mortgage.
I can’t remember when but Adam decided to move into a rented cottage with a long standing primary school friend. That move lasted a short period of time as Adam discovered his friend was stealing money from him.
Yes, I know how that feels, Adam. I know how it feels for someone you love or respect to be stealing from you.
Adam told his ‘friend’ where to go and came back to live with me. He knew I was having money issues and didn’t have to come back to me but he did. After all his mum would have welcomed him with open arms and a direct debit for his £60 per week.
So he moved back in with me, could come and go as he liked and was able to spend that £60 per week on gambling andhis nightly six pack of Tennent’s Lager.
Eventually Adam offered to pay the gas bill as he felt he should help with the household bills. He paid a whopping £30 per month for the gas bill. £2,760 less than he was paying his mum per year.
My business was struggling and I was in dire straits financially, having gone behind with my mortgage. I was at the stage of considering selling up to pay off the mortgage and rent somewhere, my arrears in danger of becoming impossible to manage. I was also looking for work.
Adam suggested we take out a loan to pay the arrears. I couldn’t get a loan so my dad took one out which Adam paid monthly. The loan was taken out for £7000 over five years, payments commencing on 9th October of that 2010. Adam paid around £5000 of the loan (maybe a bit less, maybe a bit more), as it was paid off early with a lump sum.
Let’s have a little examination of this as I don’t think Adam has thought this through or actually gets it. Too much pressure from the ladies in his life I think.
‘How can you take money from your son for living with you?’. That, I should imagine, was his mum talking. It may have been his sisters or his partner, it doesn’t matter who though. Let’s think about this, his mum was taking £60 (at least) per week from him when he was at college.
Hold on there though…‘How can you take money from your son for living with you?’… You have to assume then that his mum wasn’t taking board money from his sisters, Adam effectively subsidising Stephanie and Sophie.
Or was she taking money from Stephanie and Sophie? In which case why ask me ‘How can you take money from your son for living with you?’.
I think we should do a few sums here to illustrate Adam’s lack of understanding. First of all Adam stayed with me from 2005 until around 2014. If I’m wrong I’m sure Adam will correct me, he’s good at that. Also bear in mind he lived with his friend for a few months, so I’ll base this on Adam staying with me for nine years.
Staying with me, Adam paid £30 per month for gas over a period of around eight years (I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt as it may have been a lesser period). In addition was the loan, amounting to around £5,200. That’s a total of £8,080 over nine years. Not a bad cost of living.
Over a nine year period he would have paid his mum £28,080. Over that period he was £20,000 better off staying with me. Of course I haven’t taken his ‘and the rest’ comment into account so he’d likely have given his mum more.
Of course, the timescale can be adjusted but the payments will always be much the same.
Well and truly mugged by his mum and sisters.
After we hung the call up I drove up to his house and knocked on his door. He came running out fists flying like a crazed madman, his partner trying to hold him back. As I say Adam likes to show bravado in front of the ladies.
His partner then pushed me away, saying I’d said something to Sophie months earlier on father’s day. I did talk to her about her partner’s birthday and I did repeat something to her that Adam had said about Sandra, which I regretted and later apologised to Sophie in a text (recorded).
Ok, I might as well say it here. Adam had commented to me that had he been in my shoes he'd have left Sandra years ago. let's hope Nicole does't tun into a Sandra, though I'm she she won't.
So what made Adam so Angry? If it was the money why not come to me and tell me he needed it back? Not that at any time we agreed that I would pay him back for his own upkeep. I doubt if he had stayed with his mum he’d have had the courage to ask her for £20,080 back. He’s always been frightened of his mum, it’s how he was brought up. She was a tyrant with him, several complaining to me when he was young about how she treated him, slapping and shaking him.
I suppose it’s a good time to address that issue with Adam. He is frightened of his mum. It’s not that she would lash out. Adam can give as good as he gets now. It’s the fear of being ostracised by his mum. Not that he would bother about that as he has no respect for her anyway. He recognises her as a liar. But it’s the fear he has of his sisters also ostracising him. They were all brought up watching their mum and her siblings fall out, their mum and her parents, their mum and most of her friends. Their mum and me. They all see that as the right thing to do. Adam’s strings are pulled by the women in his life. He’s a puppet, a man on a very short leash, a man under four female thumbs.
So when considering his ‘How can you take money from your son for living with you?’ comment, that wasn’t Adam talking, that was at least one, and very likely four, women getting into his head. Adam was repeating that comment.
Monday, October 25th 2021
I was working from home when I received a visit from the police. They told me that a male member of my family had asked them to ask me not to visit him.
I asked who the person was. The police told me they couldn’t tell me, which I felt was odd considering I have other male members of my family. Was I to ignore all the male members of my family for fear of being arrested? Or was that just police incompetence?
Anyway, I assumed it would be Adam, as I don't know anyone else who is, how can I put this?, such a dick.
In the summer of 2023, after I’d written a letter to Adam he admitted that it was him. Shockingly though, he admitted he called the police to protect himself from his own violent temper. yes, Adam is a man frightened by his own psychopathic tendencies.
Let’s address the letter I sent to Adam in 2023. It was a letter addressing much of what you will read on this website. He subsequently sent copies to his sisters, which I hoped he would.
A couple of days prior to sending the letter my brother called Adam to let him know his grandad was in Victoria Hospital and not doing well. I don’t know exactly what was said during that conversation but one thing my brother commented on was that what Adam said during the conversation wasn’t Adam talking. As my brother told me ‘He was repeating what someone had said to him. It wasn’t Adam talking’. I know Adam and my brother knows Adam.
The day after Adam received the letter he came to Victoria Hospital. He was pleasant and we had a good chat. He made a comment on the letter which I will get to in a second but first of all the following is one of the last texts Adam sent to me.
‘I don’t want any more phone calls…. If I want to contact you I will, until then leave me alone… I’m never going to agree with you so a conversation in any way is pointless..’
He’s never going to agree with me. And yet, his comment on the letter was ‘I agree with most of what is in the letter’. And what was in the letter is what is what is written here. The difference being, I’ve posted evidence here.
In October 2023 Adam came to see me as I was going through a bad time mentally. We spent an hour or so talking, during which he made the statement ‘I know mum’s a liar, she is also a very bitter woman’. I also made the comment ‘Stephanie was brought up to hate me’. He not only agreed with that comment but agreed to having witnessed it. He can’t disagree with that, I know he witnessed it. I was there, watching him looking on. He was a child.
So how can Adam disagree with me when he has blatantly told me he does?
In that same conversation we spoke at length about his mum and I mentioned the fact that she had been violently abused by her own father, who would make her and her siblings kneel on marbles and beads. Adam was shocked. Maybe I shouldn’t have mentioned it to him but that violence is integral to Sandra’s sociopathy and her manipulation and grooming of Stephanie.
Adam left and said he would come back in two days. He didn’t so I called him and he told me he was sick of my lies. He was referring to me telling him about his grandad. Yes, difficult to take, and he’s likely approached his mum about it. And she’s likely said I am lying. But, excepting Sandra, there are four witnesses to the fact.
I should add here that Adam can be extremely moody, especially when his reality is being challenged.
He is also one of the most two faced people you will ever have the misfortune to meet.
Let’s go back to the phone call that started this chapter.
Why would Adam be so angry? Angry to the point of psychopathy? Physically violent to the point of using the police to protect himself from his own violent temper.
Money? Really? Is he really that shallow?
No. He’s not. I know Adam.
That type of anger was a son having been told, ‘Your dad’s a rapist’, ‘Your dad’s a paedophile’, ‘Your dad’s a serial killer’. That was anger directed at someone who has done something heinous.
You don’t get psychopathically angry to the point of needing protection from the police, of using the police, because of a contention over money.
And therein lies my biggest issue with Adam and his sisters. None of them have told me what I’ve done wrong. All Adam has said is ‘You brought it on yourself’. And what he means by that is, in a conversation early in 2021 he told me I should have walked away from Sandra years ago. When I discovered she is a thief. Long before the births of Adam, Stephanie and Sophie.
This issue began around August 2021, when Sandra and her partner (she says husband but as far as I know they aren’t married), Adam and his partner, Stephanie and possibly her partner and Sophie and her partner, had a long weekend in Inverness. The indications are that something was said, possibly by Sandra and very likely something that incurred the psychopathic wrath of Adam. I may never know what was said or discussed but what I do know is that Adam is a coward. Too cowardly to tell the truth. And his mum is a liar.
In fact to sum Adam up, a phrase I heard several times in April 2024 when the subject of Adam was discussed was ‘Adam needs to grow a pair’. Once uttered by a member of my family and once by one of Adam’s friends.
Days in Aberdeen
The Aberdeen studio opened in 2002. After leaving college Adam would travel up to the studio with me to do some work around the studio. Cleaning the studio after a session, little errands etc. He became part of the studio team and I would pay him.
He would come out with us to our nights out during the festive season etc. He would have much of his enjoyment paid for.
He travelled down to Birmingham with the studio team to one of the organisation dinner dances, flights and drinks paid for.
He was a mate.
Adam is a man who has proven he lacks integrity and is extremely duplicitous.
Maybe I should ask him how the flight and drink money back.
What a complete tosser.
A message
Adam will unlikely read this, he’s too cowardly, but here’s a message for him just in case.
The next time you’re considering calling someone a wanker, turn your phone camera onto yourself and have a good long look. That way the image of a true king sized wanker will forever be ingrained in you mind.
Adam is a man with absolutely no integrity and no dignity.
